After my recent blog post yesterday, I had a few women message me and thank me for writing it. It blew me away because I had kept this blog a secret for years. I have just recently started to share. I was scared of people seeing the other side of me. For my home business, keeping positive is key to success. At the same time I do not want to be known as that woman who seems perfect aka fake.
I dont strive for perfection anymore. It does not exist. I realized the other day that if I open up more and share my stories, other women would be able to relate and I could possibly help them. Vulnerability is scary but over the last couple of years I have been pushing myself through my fears. If i am afraid of it, I will do it. I grow the most when I am uncomfortable.
But what if I am judged or laughed at? But what if im not?
What others think about me is none of my business. Okay, to be honest thats a hard one for me but I am getting better at it! The older and wiser i become the less i do care what others think about me.
I was recently told that someone said “perfect Amanda, the one who can do no wrong” behind my back. I had 2 reactions. My first reaction was laughter because God knows (and if you read the rest of my entries!) that i am FAR….like, REALLY FAR from being perfect. My second reaction was sadness. I feel sad for her. Why? Because she feels that low about herself that she actually dislikes me because I come off as perfect. I know this is true because I used to be this kind of woman. I would look at the prettiest, happiest woman and say mean things about her. I didnt even know them. I was secretly deflecting my insecurities on to someone else. I am not this person anymore. My goal is to help other women feel worthy of happiness and to understand that they can do anything they set their mind to. No one is perfect, we have all made mistakes and thats okay!
When i stopped worrying about other people and started working on myself, that is when my eyes really opened. My own happiness comes from myself and no one else. I have to be my own best friend. Its fair to say that I was a horrible friend to myself for many years.
Why on earth do we treat everyone else around us better than we do ourselves? As a result, those around us dont get the best version of us! We must change our thinking and see eachother as equals.
Do not compete with anyone except the person who is looking back at you in the mirror.
Trust me, when you love yourself, you will attract others who will love you too.